Happier: A Prequel

Happier: A Prequel

My mother walked her various dogs every day for a mile or more until the last cocker spaniel, Nancy, bit a neighbor. This was not the first of her dogs to bite, but it was the last. Mom sadly relinquished Nancy to the daughter of another neighbor. And then she stopped...
Face Reality

Face Reality

When I asked a group of friends, all within 10 years of my age (76), at what age would they be old, those who responded all said something like this: “Five years from now.” It didn’t matter whether they were 68 or 86. Dr. Louise Aronson, the author of the bestseller,...
Be Patient With Yourself and Others

Be Patient With Yourself and Others

Being confined with one other person, as I have been in the Spring/Summer of 2020, even if that person is your beloved husband, is not easy. In the best of partnerships and marriages, there are behaviors, tics, routines that, under normal circumstances the partner...
Nurture a Sense of Humor

Nurture a Sense of Humor

Humor and Aging O’Reilly was on trial for armed robbery. The jury came out and announced “Not guilty.” “Wonderful,” said O’Reilly. “Does that mean I can keep the money?” This is called an incongruity-resolution joke. The incongruity is, of course, that O’Reilly cannot...
Get Help If You Can

Get Help If You Can

I visited my dermatologist face-to-face this week. It was my first appointment since sheltering in place in March. My health plan had cancelled two prior appointments, due to the non-emergency nature of my need and the greater need of others to access the medical...
Build both Mental and Emotional Flexibility

Build both Mental and Emotional Flexibility

In my Monday writing group this week, a friend and fellow member wrote about his years at a boutique accounting firm in San Francisco at the time of early computer assisted auditing. That small firm became a giant international one through mergers. Many of us have...