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Sara's musings about how to age happier

Bits of Skin

I had an appointment Monday morning with a new dermatologist.  I'd had a pesky cold sore near my mouth for months that wouldn't heal.  Not healing is getting to be a semi-permanent condition for me as almost any cut to my skin results in an infection.  These...

Optimism in Older Age

One of my dearest friends, a dynamic and beautiful woman, died recently. This friend was confined to her bed or wheelchair due to a spinal injury.  She was in constant pain.  In our last face-to-face conversation she asked me to think with her about what optimism...

Optimism in Older Age

One of my dearest friends, a dynamic and beautiful woman, died recently. This friend was confined to her bed or wheelchair due to a spinal injury.  She was in constant pain.  In our last face-to-face conversation she asked me to think with her about what optimism...

Letting Go

Paul Simon, one of the great songwriters and singers of my generation, is letting go.  In an article in the New York Times yesterday he said “It’s an act of courage to let go. I am going to see what happens if I let go. Then I’m going to see, who am I? Or am I just...

Close a door, open a door

This has been a month of dramatic events and effects of personal, internal changes.  I have used up whatever energy an active 72 year-old can use almost every day.  Just a few external changes include my first ever involvement in a law suit (I had really hoped to get...

Resilience and older age

From a very recent electronic article in The New Yorker about resilience http://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/the-secret-formula-for-resilience, there is this caution, "Frame adversity as a challenge, and you become more flexible and able to deal with it,...

Time

My day, week, month ideally contains just enough challenge, leisure, relationship, to "feel" full. Not so much that, at its end, I am spent, hungry, used up-- longing for someone else to cook my dinner while I stare into the fire martini in hand. It's tricky, this...

A Rant

I have just finished reading The Achievement Habit by Stanford design professor Bernard Roth.  It is a mishmash of self-help chestnuts from est (Erhard Seminars Training) to Bernie's own stories of marriage, friendship, and teaching.  He is critical enough of his wife...